How can we write a person off?
Posted by osborne2029
How can any of us just write someone off? I have seen it happen with some elderly people I have visited in nursing homes. I will ask, “Has any of your family or from your church come to see you today?” They fight back the tears, but sometimes thank God they are unsuccessful. The tears come. Rivers of sadness and disappointment are poured out. “Kevin, no one has come to see me for weeks now.” I want to be shocked. Oh, God, if only I could be! But I’m not, and that is a sad commentary on the thoughtlessness that happens in these people’s lives. In my anger I want to have a word or two with uncaring family members and those who try to justify their actions in not visiting the elderly, who need to be loved. Yes, people get busy. The demands of work and family continue. Yet, can we so easily ignore those who only ask 15 minutes to a half hour of our time?
Concerning those who are struggling to survive and trying their hardest to pull out of their circumstances, they too need our prayers and our practical support. Even on Ontario Disability my wife, Karen, and I have had many times of struggle. We live in the town of Englehart in northern Ontario. I had to leave Toronto because the pollution with my asthma was making me so sick, that it came close to costing my life on a number of ocassions. A friend under the direct unction of the Holy Spirit said, “You must leave Toronto right away or you will die.” I know this friend well. He is not an alarmist. He doesn’t say things idly. It served to confirm what the doctors were shouting at me to do. Doctors rarely speak so loudly in warning their patients. I got the message. My health has been much better as a result.
We have no community bus service here, so we need a car to get around. There are times our car Karen calls Black Beauty has needed to have repair work. On the limited funds of Ontario Disability, especially given that we pay hundreds of dollars every month for the antihistamines and vitamins and minerals I need for my health, there was no money left for car repairs. Thank God for the faithful friends we have who understand that there are times we need help. They have paid for our car to be fixed. We have both had to go to food banks at times because of budget shortfalls. We both have high blood pressure. While we are always very thankful for the food we get from food banks, the fact remains that many of the canned goods are high in sodium.
I have also had to be on a food elimination diet to see what foods I have sensitivities to. As food items are added back in we will find out what I react to. Doctors have already told me that because of damage to my digestive system and multiple food allergies that the diet I once knew would kill me. I would eventually succumb from an anaphylactic attack, go into shock, coma and then death. Hmmm. It doesn’t leave me with any options. This means an extra $250 a month for food that our budget can’t absorb. We have a few faithful friends who recognize this fact. They have sent us grocery and gas cards. They have paid for the approximately $375 it costs to go for treatment to go to the Canadian College of Naturopathic Medicine with gas, one night accommodation at the Stouffville in and meals.
In the warmer months we have to travel at night because heat is a trigger for an anaphylactic attack or life-threatening reaction. With my multiple chemical sensitivity I have to avoid vehicle exhause fumes as much as possible. Even with these measures my face still gets red. I have an increase of the rash on my right arm. At times especially if it’s hot and humid, I have breathing trouble. There is a risk until there is more stability with my health that I can land in the ER, and even need to be intubated. Yet, the fact remains without naturopathic treatment my reactions will become far more dangerous.
Staying in Toronto right now is still dangerous for me. Naturopaths in northern Ontario are far more expensive than our budget can manage at this time. Furthermore, the treatment I receive there is the most recent treatment available. I have the benefit of many naturopathic doctors working together researching the most effective treatments for systemic mastocytosis, multiple chemical sensitivity and pernicious anemia. Mastocytosis means there are way too many mast cells (cells that are part of your immune system) in my body. I am on five mast cell stabilizers that have a combined cost of over $600 a month. The Exceptional Access Committee of the Ministry of Health and Long-Term Care covers nothing of that cost. In denying me this and the cost of over $300 a month for all the other antihistamines I need they say “The drug manufacturer has not submitted a peer review of this medication.” I can tell you that most drug manufacturers will never go through this process, because it can cost several million dollars. These bean counters devoid of compassion go by their pat rules. Meanwhile, people with chronic and rare conditions are left to suffer and even die. Ask the members of the Exceptional Access Committee and government policy makers how they can go to sleep at night?
We are thankful for friends who understand the depth of our need, which is beyond our control. Many Conservatives would say, “Get a job.” I can tell them I have one, but the small salary for working for the seminary from home doesn’t meet the hundreds of dollars each month I need to survive. Not even a respirologist can get my antihistmaine and asthma drug singulair covered. I had it covered, but the government stopped my coverage for it. When I told my allergist this he shook his head in disgust and anger. “Kevin, these are very scary reactions you’re having. Without the singulair expect more of the same and even worse.” The medication costs around $90 a month. I submit that because of the time I didn’t have it I ended up in various hospitals for a combined total of seven weeks, with life-threatening reactions, one of which required intubation. It cost you the Ontario taxpayer $1,000 a day according to a nurse clinician for each day I was in the hospital. That means the taxpayer paid over $49,000 for me to be in the hospital. In my opinion, none of it was necessary.
The personal cost to me and Karen with pain and suffering is immeasurable. God bless the friends who have been there in our critical times of need. I even got my M.P.P. John Vanthov, involved in these inhustices. He did all he could, but he is going up against policy makers, who would probably have a party if I would just go away and die. But here I am, stll fighting and I will continue to fight not merely for myself, but all people who are treated with injustice and inequity.
I see myself as one who afflicts the comfortable and comforts the afflicted. That is my calling I received in a Korean ambulance as asthmatic bronchitis and a flu almost took my life. I made a covenant with my Lord that I would go back to Canada as more than a mere arm chair critic about injustice. I would fight with my last breath for jusitce for all people to live with the dignity that is their fundamental right. It is my prayer that others will join with me as we struggle to make our communiities and our world a better place.
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About osborne2029I enjoy spending time with people just having a coffee or talking about life, philosophy, religion, politics or sharing a favorite joke or story. We learn from one another as we interact and share our joys, challenges and even our times of sadness. I enjoy reading, writing, singing and sharing in the blessing of community whether that is one on one or in groups. I'm married and am powned by two kitties named Sir William of Lounge a.k.a. Sir Lounge a Lot and Princess Catherine of Chaos a.k.a. Her Royal Highness Catherine of Englehart. I m in an M.A.-Ph.D program with St. James the Elder Theological Seminary to train to become a psychotherapist and priest. Let us pray for and reach out to each other with kindness, love and an embracing compassion. We can working together be servants with two open hands to those in need so that hate, indifference and inequality would lose and love will win. The peace and abounding joy of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you.
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