Thank you can be a healing word

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Not all of us are as cool as this dog in expressing our thanks, but it’s the thought that counts.

I have been asking myself: How often do I say, “Thank you?” I’m not talking about the socially expected kind of thank you. The thank you I’m referring to is one that comes from the heart. This thank you is filled with a spirit of gratitude.

When I was in my early twenties, a dear friend named Bill Pye gave me a brown leather Bible. It wasn’t my birthday, nor was it Christmas. I asked Bill, “What’s this for?” He smiled and said, “Kevin, that’s for being you.” I still have that Bible.

Bill was such a close friend. He taught me how to work with the abused, addicted and rejected. He cried as he told me about an eight-year-old boy who shot and killed himself. I was touched deeply that Bill trusted me enough to share something so personal. He was called to the scene by the police because he was a youth-at-risk counselor. He read the note that was found at the scene: “Nobody loved me.” I wonder to this day what difference it would have made if someone had given this boy a gift and said, “That’s for being you.” Whoever didn’t love this boy, this gift from God, killed him as surely as if they had pulled the trigger. When we fail to love others, there can be serious consequences.

I have learned from Bill sharing this story to always tell people how special they are, to say to them they are fearfully and wonderfully made by God. I tell them that God has a plan for their life and that all life is precious to Him. I tell them not to give up.  When my pastor and I went to visit some church members, I saw bullet holes from a gang shooting on walls of the apartment lobby. That day I learned how important it is to tell everyone how much God loves them.

Thank you can be such a healing word. When said with meaning, that word can touch someone’s life where a thousand other words fail to reach.

Bill was such an encouragement to me when I was new in my faith and learning about ministry work. I had just finished doing my first sermon. I was nervous. I wondered how the thoughts of this young fellow who had so much more to learn about life would be received. I said to Bill, “Didn’t you see my legs shaking?” He offered this uplifting comment, “Kevin, you reached me and everyone here. Nobody escaped.” I thank God that what He called me to say touched Bill and the congregation.

Bill taught me to have an appreciation for the gift of life. He would pick me up in the church van and say, “Kevin, it’s such a wonderful day!” He would do this whether the sky was blue or cloudy. Yes, he had his tough days when it was hard to be joyful, but I never recall him staying sad for too long. When he was in an accident with the church van, he described it to me as a “Hallelujah breakdown”! Bill told me it gave him the opportunity to share his testimony of how he came to be free of his addictions when he accepted Christ as his Savior. Bill was just that kind of guy. He had the ability to talk to a complete stranger like he had known that person all of his life.

Whenever Bill would share his life story with me, I was blessed to see the love of Christ within him light up his face. It’s no wonder Bill touched so many lives as he would talk to people in taverns, where we would go to speak to hurting souls. They needed to hear from a man who had experienced addiction what it was like to know God with your whole heart, mind, and soul. He told me that he was thankful for the gift of really knowing God. It amazed me how this spirit of love poured out of him as he was dying. Bill was thankful for every second of life, every breath he breathed. He cherished the gift. He inspired me to do likewise.

I miss Bill. He could make me laugh and bring me out of myself. He taught me to be thankful for the gift of God’s love and others through both the good and tough times. He showed me by his life what it truly means to be thankful in all circumstances. Oh, if you could have seen how Bill shone for Jesus in the last months of his life! He knew where he was going. I think he was in a hurry to get there because in Heaven there is no more sorrow or pain. Bill is having an eternal party of thankfulness and praise there. When my work for our Father is done, I’ll sure be glad to see Bill again and be part of this eternal celebration.

Throughout 2018 I’m going to try my best, with God’s help, to have more of a spirit of thankfulness. I pray this message will inspire you to do the same.

Dr. Kevin James Osborne, D.Sc., D.D., Psy D. Candidate, is the Vice-President of Institutional and Mission Advancement for St. James the Elder University.  He was recently named to the office of Chaplain by Most Reverend Heyward B. Ewart Ph.D., Psy.D., D.D., who is the Head of Holy Catholic Church International. Kevin and Karen have a private counseling practice called You Can Hope Again Counselling. Kevin is a Doctorate in Psychology (Psy.D.) candidate at St. James the Elder University.  When he graduates with his Doctorate in Psychology, he feels God is leading him to postgraduate study in theology and counseling. Karen plans to take graduate studies in psychology and theology. Our journey is all about being servants of Christ’s love wherever God leads us.  Our mission field is wherever God puts us for His glory.


About osborne2029

I enjoy spending time with people just having a coffee or talking about life, philosophy, religion, politics or sharing a favorite joke or story. We learn from one another as we interact and share our joys, challenges and even our times of sadness. I enjoy reading, writing, singing and sharing in the blessing of community whether that is one on one or in groups. I'm married and am powned by two kitties named Sir William of Lounge a.k.a. Sir Lounge a Lot and Princess Catherine of Chaos a.k.a. Her Royal Highness Catherine of Englehart. I m in an M.A.-Ph.D program with St. James the Elder Theological Seminary to train to become a psychotherapist and priest. Let us pray for and reach out to each other with kindness, love and an embracing compassion. We can working together be servants with two open hands to those in need so that hate, indifference and inequality would lose and love will win. The peace and abounding joy of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you.

Posted on January 1, 2018, in Facing the new year, loving others and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 3 Comments.

  1. Very powerful Kevin! Thank you for the reminder that a simple word as thank you can change someone’s whole world! May I be as humble as you in remembering this! Thank you my dear friend!

  2. First of all Merry Christmas to you Kevin and Karen. I know it has been a long time since you have not heard of me; it’s almost as if I’ve given up this blog. I’m dropping by to say thank you for everything. thank you for your contributions to this blog and thank you for your kindness; i’m always proud of you. i always tell others there are still people like you and Karen. i know you too have some difficult times in life but i always know God will see you through. thank you and God bless you and Karen. have a wonderful year ahead.

  3. Marmar, Merry Christmas and God’s richest blessings in 2018 to you and your family! I’m deeply touched that you’re proud of me. I, my dear friend, am always proud of you. You were faithful to the call God put upon your heart to start this blog. You have always led by example with a humility and a realness in all you have shared. Your positive and uplifting writing continues to be an inspiration to us. Any blessing we are to you and others is because our Father has put His love for others in our hearts. We give Him all the glory for that. Yes, brother the Lord does always see us through. Our tough times have caused us to draw closer to God. It’s much tougher to seek God’s strength when there is only a blue and sunny sky. You can begin to fall into the trap of thinking you accomplished something through your own efforts. There have been people who have told me that while they are well off financially they are spiritually poor. They can have many people around them but are desperately lonely. It was my honor to be part of a team that led a formerly wealthy man to Christ. He told us about how he had a yacht, all the women he wanted, and everything he craved, but there was this emptiness inside. He turned to drugs and alcohol to try and numb the constant pain inside him that ate away at him. He was so filled with peace and joy when He asked God to forgive his sins and accepted Christ as His Savior. He was driven from the bar to our church. We were all so elated when he knelt at the altar crying out for God to be saved. It was like the heart cry of the Psalmist David in Psalm 51 when he prayed that God would wash away his sin and make him whiter than snow. David with a repentant heart pleaded with God for that pure heart cleansed of all sin. He says, “Purify me with hyssop, and I shall be clean; Wash me, and I shall be whiter than snow” (Psalm 51:7, NASB).

    Marmar, I shared this story to encourage you about the awesome way God works in our lives when we allow Him to be in control of it. When we have questions about the way our life is going God is there in the fog. He makes a way where there appears to be no way. You say that you haven’t contributed anything to the blog for some time. We all go through times of uncertainty in where God is leading us. We ask ourselves questions like these: Is God closing one door to open another? Does our Father want us to focus on something else? Will my life go in an awful direction if I fail to follow God’s path? That is the mystery of faith that calls us to trust and accept that God won’t steer us wrong if we put our complete trust in Him.

    Please send me a note to I would be glad to pray with you and discuss this and any other issue further.

    Marmar, we want to thank you for giving us a place to share the thoughts God has put upon our hearts. Blogging for our Father and you has made us better writers and communicators of God’s Truth.

    We love you, brother!

    Kevin and Karen

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