Seeing is a Matter of Perceptions
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“The image that concerns most people is the reflection they see in other people’s minds.”
― Edward De Bono
When you look at yourself in the mirror what do you see? What do others see when they look at you? These are questions we ask ourselves every day. The way you see yourself can be the opposite of how others view you.
Employee evaluations can be both an uplifting and rough experience. You think you are not doing well in an area such as engagement with other team members, but your boss says you lead with quiet confidence. You think you are knowledgeable in your field; your boss says you don’tt challenge yourself enough to go into areas that are outside your comfort zone.
Your perception and reality are two different things.
You are left with two choices. You can accept constructive criticism and grow both as an employee and a human being; you can reject your supervisor’s opinion.
I have been through employee evaluations. I have had bosses challenge me. It can be a hand-wringing experience when what is being said is critical. In those times we have the alternative of accepting or dismissing what is being said. But if you challenge your boss in a spirit of bitterness what could have been an opportunity for growth is lost.
Character is not shown on days where the sun shines; it is proven in the way we react to the storm.
God gives us the free will choice to make good or bad decisions.
We can be bitter; we can strive to do better.
We can love others; we can hate them.
We can embrace the best that is in us; we can encourage the worst in us.
It’s all a matter of the way you look at it.
If we look at the life of Christ we will learn how to behave. Jesus said it in guiding His followers, “I am giving you a new commandment, that you love one another; just as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all people will know that you are My disciples: if you have love for one another.”(John 13:34-35, NASB).
The type of love Jesus was advising His disciples to be the pattern for the way they interacted with others is referred to as agape love. I would like to focus on one aspect of that love that many may not be aware of. It refers to “agapáō – properly, to prefer, to love; for the believer, preferring to “live through Christ” (1 Jn 4:9,10), i.e. embracing God’s will (choosing His choices) and obeying them through His power. 25 (agapáō) preeminently refers to what God prefers as He “is love” (1 Jn 4:8,16).,,1
We can choose to make God’s choices or ours.
But if we are stubborn and don’t listen to wise advice, what will our evaluation be from our Father?
It’s all a matter of perceptions.
I’m a stumbling sinner saved by grace teaching others how to find it.