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Call to Care from Chrissy Archibald’s Family


Photo: Courtesy of the Archibald family

This question keeps running through my mind. Why do terrorists hate strangers so much? I can understand the process of indoctrination of hate present from one’s childhood. But I have yet to hear anyone be able to explain to me one good thing hate does. One of the messages from one of the people who was up close with one of the terrorists was this: “I saw the hate in his eyes.” When we hate someone there is usually a reason for it. Those murdered and wounded in the most recent London and Manchester terror attacks did nothing to warrant being victimized.

As a Canadian, I am appalled by the murder of fellow Canadian, Chrissy Archibald. This young woman who worked at a homeless shelter before leaving for Europe to be with her fiancé was a giver. Her light will be missed by her family, friends, colleagues, and all of us. Many parents who lose their sons and daughters to cruel acts of terrorism are understandably filled with rage and demand vengeance. Yet, Chrissy’s parents encourage us to love others. They ask that we would volunteer at a shelter or donate to a worthy cause. “Tell them Chrissy sent you” will resonate in our hearts and minds for a long time.

I echo the call of Chrissy’s parents for a call to love, not hate, intolerance and indifference. That is what terrorism represents. They want you to be like them. I urge you not to give these haters of compassion that satisfaction.

Make your life count for something. Let it be said of you that you did your best to care for people in their time of need. Be that listening ear.

Let there be a revolution of caring that changes people’s lives for the better.

Be the best you, you can be.

I think that would make Chrissy smile.

Kevin and Karen Osborne are psychotherapists and pastoral counsellors.  Kevin is studying to become a chaplain and professor of Psychology specializing in Pastoral Theology. Karen enjoys doing cross-stitch while I like writing and singing songs. Karen makes me laugh when she sings the kitty bed-time song saying, “It’s that time. It’s the bestest kitty time of the day!” Kevin enjoys teasing the kitties and making them do kitty dances with music. Their kitty, Catherine, loves it when kitty daddeh sings All Things Bright and Beautiful. Kevin likes doing impressions. He tells children’s stories and helps others with their problems using his hand puppet, Dr. Teddy, who is a therapy bear. He is a partner with us in our counselling practice.We are available to assist with worship and preaching to give busy pastors and ministers a much-needed break. We offer in-office, and phone counselling to anyone in the world.