Recently, I’ve been pondering on the Tongue. That little thing that the Bible and life attest that it can cause great havoc. One of the greatest causes of man’s waywardness. James writes in the Bible (James 3), describing this tongue, and how untameable it can be, or is. But he concludes that it ought not to be so. Which means it ought to be Some-Other-How. However, though we know that, it’s always an uphill task. I thought about this, and thought to share what works for me. Hopefully it would work for someone too. It’s practical, so we all could practice this together, and with a hand clad to our lips, set our minds on the things above, on Christ, the Solid Rock; the One who can all things, and through whom all things are possible, even taming the tongue.
- Call on God to help you.
First, call on God’s help, because on your own, you can’t. Left to ourselves, the flesh will rule and dominate over us. Two captains cannot be in one ship. Two persons cannot rule over one body. If you are master of it, your flesh will rule. If God is master of it, He will take control of all and steer it. The Bible says the entire body is steered by the tongue. When God takes charge, He stirs the body with the tongue, so rest assured, he humbles the tongue for you.
Psalm 141:3 “Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips!”
- Practice to keep silent when things get rowdy.
It is practical. Practice to zip it. Even if with a physical sign with the hands, Zip it. When you zip it, you have time to think better and rephrase once you unzip. Usually, it’s in the rashness of the circumstance that we speak rashly and harshly, words, that if we had time to think, would have said it in a better, more mature, understandable, and acceptable truthful manner, hurting no self and no other person, but speaking the truth quietly and gently, like Jesus did. This gives one even more benefit of the doubt.
Proverbs 17:28 “Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise; when he closes his lips, he is deemed intelligent.”
- Practice speaking little
It doesn’t come at a go, and don’t expect it to. But it is possible. You can reduce your word count. Reduce your word speed. Practice, practice, practice and it may soon become your lifestyle. In wanting to speak out much and everything, one ends up speaking out naught and just anything. Speak little. Our age-old adages often say “wisdom lies in little words”. Summing it, you don’t necessarily need to speak much to speak sense. Speak little, speak wisely.
And a word too for my female biggies and juniors, watch the deception that says women are naturally made to speak more than men. I don’t know where in the Bible that is. Science may have said its, but whose do you choose to believe? God’s, which says a wise person doesn’t set things ablaze with the tongue, or Science’s, which says you may have been conceived with much more words to pronounce. I may be wrong, but wisdom is paramount. Seek it!
Proverbs 10:19 “When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restrains his lips is prudent”
- Walk with the Spirit
It’s not impossible to walk with the Spirit. The Bible says we have the Spirit within us; in us. But, we don’t often want God’s spirit to lead us, to guide us through. His Spirit gives us discernment, and with discernment, we can know when to talk, why to talk, how to talk and when and how not to talk in some cases. Only God’s Spirit can give us that discernment, and void of that, we’ll always certainly fall in the pit of the tongue.
Galatians 5:16 “But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh.”
The tongue wrought great danger. Up to three of the things the Bible says the Lord hates have to do with the tongue. In Proverbs 6:16-19 “There are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that make haste to run to evil, a false witness who breathes out lies, and one who sows discord among brothers.
This list is not exhaustive, but something starts from somewhere.