Recently I wrote a post about the annulment of a fifteen year friendship and my heart’s desire to speak words that build into the life of the person, even though I could have done the opposite based on the intricacies of what happened. I believe in my heart that God was working on me, using this issue and I can safely say he still is. As I got home from work today and got into the word of God, I was directed to the ultimate love chapter in the bible; 1 Corinthians 13. The characteristics of love expressed in this chapter is rather intriguing. What makes it more mind-bugging is the fact that “Christians” don’t love like this. I may be blast for saying this but through much observations, even in my life, I am left to say that we do not love as God has mandated us to love. True love is very deep and goes very deep. A perfect example of true love is Jesus. Though we betrayed him and slayed him, he looked beyond it all and died for our sins, saying on the cross, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do”.
As I reflected on my response to the friendship issue, I began to ask God, “Did I do the right thing according to your word? Did I operate in love?” I do believe love is wise and will not allow itself to be abused but I was still interested to know. Not in the aim of being right by the person but being right by God. My desire to know is not meant to draw me back to the individual because of course, once bitten, twice shy but I long for knowledge, to resist resenting or the building up of hate in my heart. In my humble opinion, where the bible states love is long-suffering and endures all, I don’t believe it endorses staying in an abusive or hurtful setting but rather even if you walk away, do not walk away with hate in your heart but allow Gods love to flow through you, conquering all. That’s love at its deepest. Love does not always entails one on one contact but you can love through praying for the individual/s or even seed sowing into a ministry that hurt you. As I encourage myself to love like Jesus did, I encourage you to do the same. Maybe you were severely scarred by someone you trusted and you find it hard to forgive. This would be a good time to look at your hurt record to the Lord, in sinning daily and pay attention to his response to you. Since we are called to be Christlike, it would only be right to do to others, as he did and continues to do, to you. Again, I say, this is not a call to be foolish and allow yourself to be abused and stay in hurtful environments but it is a call to love the ones who was not so nice to us.
I chose to start loving the right way today. Do you?